These terms do not just apply to romantic love: they also apply to my friends, and to my academic interests:
Do not expect my love without reason. I will love you for the reasons that you present to me in the form of your strengths.
Do not let me believe that I can be loved without reason: If I cannot strive to earn your love, I cannot love you.
Do not believe that I am bound to you love you just because I have loved you in the past.
Do not expect me to tell you that I love you if I don’t. If I am unsure, I will tell you that I don’t .
If you wish to meet me on these terms, I will meet you on these terms. If you wish to be met on any other terms, state them and they will be considered. I will attempt to keep a revised list of my terms up on my wiki.
I liked this entry.
Comment by sukie — April 23, 2008 @ 4:01 am
Yeah: that was my attempt to follow up on http://alsuren.wordpress.com/2008/04/02/past-few-weeks/
The above is hopefully some intersection of what I believe and Rand’s ideas. I think Rand’s idea of romantic love is a little bit kinkier than that, but you can read ‘The Fountainhead’ if you want to find out about that.
If anyone has read one of her books recently, and can think of any terms that should be added, please shout. It would be interesting to see where my ideas and hers diverge.
Comment by alsuren — April 23, 2008 @ 7:02 am
You have been tagged on my blog!
Comment by sukie — May 12, 2008 @ 6:00 pm